My sweet, easy, third born baby girl is no longer a baby. She’s two. Sigh. She’s really fun and happy as long as everything is going her way. . .but when it’s not? Watch out! Yesterday, she WOULD NOT let me change her diaper. She decided there were other things she would rather be doing. She got sent to her bed until she would say sorry and let me change her diaper. Even after almost two hours in her bed this stubborn girl still would not say sorry. For those of you who are softies and think she must have not understand what she needed to do, ha! Every time I went into her room to see if she was ready to apologize, she glared at me and yelled “no sorry!” Between my stubborn miss, a four year old who has decided he should be the boss (hey, maybe he would do better than me), and a six year who knows EVERYTHING, this girl is WORN OUT!! Here’s my email to my husband yesterday-
Your children are evil- I quit
Looks like this post is going to contain a lot of CAPITALIZATION, BOLD, and exclamation marks!!!!
It helps me to think of being a mom as a job. A job that doesn’t pay of course, or give a lot of sick days. There are a few perks.
Luke made this for me at school today. Sweet.
Blake made this for me yesterday. “Mom, Mom, Mom, Mom! Look, look, look! See it spin and spin?”
So here’s my to do list, pep talk, etc etc to myself on how to be a good mom because I’m sure your kids NEVER misbehave, or act ridiculous, or cause you to have to leave the library, Target and the grocery store very, very quickly on a regular basis. And even if they do, I’m sure you all handle it calmly and patiently and therefore you will have no use for this. That’s ok, after you read it you can tell me what all I missed!
1. Pray. Seriously.
2. When you are at home, your job is to be a mom. If you hired a babysitter, you wouldn’t expect her to watch the kids, keep the house picked up, cook a fabulous meal, pay bills, make appointments, and run all the errands. So why do you feel like you should?
3. Let the non essentials slide. If that means we eat peanut butter and jelly for dinner (of course in our house that would be almond butter, sugar free jelly and sprouted grain bread ) for a few nights in a row, that’s ok! If the kids miss a bath or the laundry doesn’t get done, oh well!
4. Accept that things will be stressful and ridiculous sometimes. You have to deal with crap sometimes. Of course, in most jobs you are not LITERALLY dealing with crap but you get the point.
5. Say no, for awhile. If you had a particularly busy time at work that required overtime, you would feel fine about telling people no. If your kids are in a needy stage, then feel ok about saying no to extra responsibilities for awhile.
6. Spend time with other moms and kids. It’s particularly helpful if the kids behave worse than yours- that will really help you feel better! Other moms are a great resource to get new ideas or just unload a bit! Hearing their kid stories is always good comic relief and they can give advice and perspective. Getting out and seeing new faces can help change the kids mood too.
7. There is no age limit to timeouts. I find them remarkably helpful!
8. Lose the expectation that you should be perfect. It will do your kids far more good to see you mess up, apologize and make it right.
9. Be willing to ask for help. Did anyone else hate group projects in school as much as me? I have a certain way I like to do things so letting my spontaneous husband jump in can be difficult for me. But he excels at creative punishments! That could be it’s very own blog post! Because there’s more than one way to skin a cat. Have you ever said that phrase to your kids and then hoped they weren’t paying attention and didn’t ask questions? I mean, I don’t really like cats, but what a twisted thing to say!
10. Take a break! Rest time is not the time to catch up on laundry or clean up- even really important people with important jobs get to take a lunch break now and then!
11. Treat yourself kindly. I don’t have enough money to go get a massage or my nails done every time the kids stress me out, but I did hit up Marshall’s tonight and got this $4 bowl- woohoo!
Maybe it was only $4 because they knew the sticker would never come off. After my Lainie incident last night, I locked myself in my room and watched Making of the Sound of Music Live- I’m awesome! If you don’t treat yourself well, your kids won’t think they need to either.
12. Love covers a multitude of sins. And thank goodness for that because my kids really are wonderful and I don’t want to mess this up!
Feel free to give me all of your mom wisdom below- obviously I need all the help I can get!